I’ve noticed a new phenomenon that’s recently sprouted in my life. Whenever encountering resistance to something that pops up during my day, I pause and address the thing directly, as though writing it a sweet note - “Dear Belly (yes, my stomach), Dear Person who just cut me off in traffic, Dear Savings Account, Dear God… seriously!” And so today I found myself uttering, “Dear Blog”!.
Turns out, this new proclivity is a gentle nudge telling me that either the something needs to change, or well, something in me might be do for a change. I almost always want the other thing to change of course, but in the end I usually lose. And mind you, looking at it as a win-loose situation is completely unhelpful. Just saying.
So this afternoon I found myself uttering, “Dear Blog…” Yes, it is indeed time for a change, and in this case much of the change will be coming from my blog (YAY!!) and some of it will be coming from me (BOO!).
While my ego is excited that it’s not having to change much, what it doesn’t know is that it already has. HA- HA!
I’ve been doing a lot of work around what I want my coaching practice to be, how I want it to feel, who I want to serve, and mostly – how I’ve been standing in the way of that. I’ve been unraveling a lot of old stories around my worth, my ability to have a successful practice, and who I am. And it hasn’t been easy. Or quick, necessarily.
But I’ve seen some subtle shifts, that over time have accumulated into – - It is seriously time to update my blog! i.e. Change.
Turns out that I can’t rush healing, or growing, or well, change. But when I stick to my knitting, take care of myself (and trust that others will take care of themselves), change just happens. It happens exactly when it needs to happen. And unfortunately, for some of us, not a single second sooner.
On the flip side, approaching change from the outside, external world is a whole heck of a lot harder than starting within. I mean, sometimes (sometimes) it works, but mostly it doesn’t. What does happen is that people manage to make a big change and then it all falls apart. They end up right back where they started, only more discouraged, and less likely to try again.
The change didn’t stick not because they don’t deserve wonderful things or great relationships. But because they don’t yet believe it. Don’t believe they’re capable, deserving… fill in the blank. Instead, starting on the inside is an opportunity to examine the “believing” part – what do you believe you deserve or don’t deserve, what are you capable of? In the end, the answers to those questions will paint a pretty accurate picture of what you’ll get. Like every time.
Point being, it’s an inside job. Always has been, always will be. When you clean up the painful stories and beliefs that are keeping you from the life you want, the change happens naturally. It can’t not.
And if you’d like some help along the way, consider hiring a life coach (eh-hem – see contact tab). Yes, shameless self-promotion, but hey, it is my blog:).
It’s good to see that you are posting more often. I hope that is part of the “change”
Hi James! It is, and soon an improved website… With even more posts:). Thanks for reading!